When Did We Become the People Our Parents Ask for Advice?

Good Morning.

At some point in our adult lives, something interesting happens. Our parents begin asking us for advice.

It might be about a decision they're considering. They want to know what we think, and they listen carefully to the answer.

The conversation itself may be entirely ordinary. What's unusual is realizing that years ago, the same discussion would probably have gone in the opposite direction.

For much of our childhood, our parents are the people we turn to when we don't know what to do. We grow accustomed to relying on their experience, even as we become increasingly capable of making our own decisions.

But somewhere along the way, they begin relying on ours.

It can be a curious experience to recognize that your parents now see you as someone whose judgment they value. You may have been making important decisions independently for years, but having a parent seek your opinion gives that independence a different meaning.

It also changes something about how we see them.

As children, we rarely consider how much uncertainty our parents might experience. We see the decisions they make, but seldom the doubts that accompany them.

As adults, we begin to understand that having more experience doesn't necessarily mean having all the answers.

And yet, even as our relationships change, much of their earlier character remains.

A parent who respects our judgment may still offer unsolicited advice about something we've been managing perfectly well for years. We may find that mildly irritating while continuing to value their opinion more than almost anyone else's.

Perhaps the remarkable thing about growing older together is that we never entirely leave those earlier relationships behind. We simply develop new ways of relating to one another.

Our parents remember the children we were. We remember the adults who seemed to know what to do.

And now, occasionally, the person who once taught us how to make decisions is asking us to help them make one.

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Final Note

This is what we leave you with. A thought to end the day, carry in your pocket, or come back to later. Nothing big. Just something to reflect on.

Taking Our Own Advice

We often resist advice we've already given someone else.

It's remarkable how sensible our advice can sound when someone else needs it. We can recognize what would help them and explain it with complete confidence. But when we face a similar situation, suddenly there are complications we hadn't considered. Perhaps giving advice is easier because we don't have to live with the consequences of following it.

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